Usually, children ask unsuspecting question and parents don’t understands about – how to revert and give reaction to the sex related queries answer their question. Mostly parents scold him/her or make them quiet. The confusion and curiosity of the children increases even when there is not a satisfying revert.
Generally, well educated people are still stunned by talking or discussing an important topic, which is mostly considered confidential, so giving coupling education to children is far away and our reluctance on our children’s future. Have we ever thought about the effect it may have ? Isn’t not true that it is still easy for children to answer these questions today, but tomorrow it will be very difficult to solve their problems ? Often parents do not consider it necessary to give children any information about coupling. By thinking that they too had not told anything about it by their parents. So did it affect their life? Then today the era has become so advanced that even before age children know everything. Then what is the need to explain something separately? But often this thinking of ours, proves to be harmful for children.
Whether or not to educate to our children, they get many such incomplete and provocative related information from pornographic magazines, TV, movies, internet, even toilet walls, which mislead them. Are enough for child fickle mind starts to fret over various types of experiments about without seeing the immaturity of the body and in many cases they achieve it, and the result ahead ? Many physical-mental illnesses, self-aggrandisement, remorse and studies, career losses are different. But our irony is that despite living in the jet age of 21st century, we are still not able to decide whether or not to give educate children and when and how ? Whereas now the time has come that beyond such education or not, we should think about how and at what age to educate to children. Mainly Sexologist are pointing the criteria and right way to give proper education to children.
Starting from initial stage, the children’s are also with common mentality and line of thought like us and mainly human’s have feeling, and few survey as well as research say’s that few feelings are present in the child from birth and they are also eager to know all about the parts in humans which is absolutely normal. But most of the parents do not pay attention to this and also do not give proper guidance to their children. Many times it also happens that we start arousing curiosity in our child’s delicate mind right from childhood. When the child is born, they does not know anything about the world, even about their own body. In such a situation, whenever a child hands towards private parts like other organs or comes undressed in front of others, parents immediately reprimand them. At that time, the innocence does not realise their mistake, but in the opposite mind, curiosity starts to wake up, why is it forbidden to touch this part of my body. So to avoid scolding of parents, child starts touching their private parts privately and the parents do not even aware about. Therefore, parents should not scold children with their normal actions, their behaviour may also change over time.
What to guide further in different ages ? At around age of 3-4 years, explain them as the way all the brushes, towels etc are completely private and individual also should not be used by anyone else, In the same way this part of your body is also completely private. Which you should not uncover in front of others. Also, tell us that if anyone touches or rub limbs, they should arise objections tell parents/guardians immediately. By doing this, we will be able to inform the children about the privacy of their private parts as well as protect them from child sexual abuse.
What to tell further during the age slab changes – mother can ask about that child should not even show private parts to them, so now you have to take bath yourself. In this way they will be able to know that their private parts are absolutely private, which no one has the right to see or touch. While teaching about body parts we need to explain regarding safe-unsafe touch.
small children do not understand much about safe-unsafe touch, but it depends on the way parents explain them. Still, explain to children about the good touch and bad touch.
Explain them in a simple way instead of answering their technical queries. Always keep in mind the age of children. While giving basic education to children up to 11-13 years old. Parents need to Provide accurate and complete information about fornicate to children above 14 years of age. When kids ask questions related to copulation, parents scold them, instead of being angry and respond lovingly. Parents shouldn’t ignore their questions and may not try to scold them. Keep friendly behaviour while answering such queries, do try not deal with settlement.