Dealing or Contend With Temper Tantrums Wisely
Most parents believe/follow that whenever possible the best is to ignorance of the tantrums. When there’s nobody to observe – no need to perform many caution, though, that it’s important not to ignore the child, they ask themselves if they’re enforcing too-riding standards, holding too- high expectations, or not giving enough TLC, try not avoid the tantrum point preventing your child from becoming over tired or frustrated. help with a toy that won’t work, insist on a short rest, or offer a little snack. any of these may avert a tantrum you see coming.
Dealing with temper tantrums
Let your child scream to his heart’s content sometimes ( outdoor ) Everybody needs to let off steam occasionally. Ask your child to be in his room and stay there until the lost “happy Face” is found. Try to distract your child by doing or saying something unusual or silly. You might even stage your own mock tantrums and ask your child if you’re doing it right, or switch lights on/off rapidly – as attention distracted. Some parents say ( if you can do this without anger or hostility ) to slowly pour a glass of water over a child’s head for real drama! ( recommended only in the kitchen or bathroom.)
Tell your child firmly that the rule still stands (if discipline precipitated the tantrum), then ignore the tantrum. Disappear! If you’re in another room, you’ll feel better, and the tantrum will probably be short-lived. If your child follows you, move again. Pick up your child and gently shake the ”mads” in a fun way.
Stop breath-holding by gently blowing into your child’s face, dashing a small amount of water on his face, or applying a cold washcloth. Don’t panic if your child starts to become cyanotic (turns blue or purple due to lack of oxygen in the blood). Fainting automatically stops breath-holding. Ask your child to go to his room and stay there until the lost ”happy face” is found. Disappear if you’re in another room, you’ll feel better, and the tantrum will probably be short-lived. if your child follows you, move again. Escort your child calmly to the car or a restroom if a tantrum occurs when you’re away from home. When the tantrum sub-sides, return to the business at hand if you can’t leave, simply let the tantrum continue, and grit your teeth.
Handling Inappropriate Behaviour
Set a timer, and tell your child that the behaviour must stop when the bell rings. Else, tell your child you are going to count to ten, then start counting out loud, Be prepared to enforce the consequences (like leaving the store) When you’re finished counting. Empty treats don’t work. Choose a time out location where your child remain there for a designated period of a time . [ many parents choose one minute for each year of age. ] this not only ends the behaviour, it gives your child a chance to clam down and stop the momentum that may have gotten out of control.
Be prepared to redirect your Child’s attention to a positive activity when the time out ends. Call out a funny magic phrase such as “un- gah- wah ” which is your family’s secret signal to stop whatever activity is going on. Use it in nondisciplinary situations occasionally , such as during a game, and be prepared to have used on you. praise your child for good self- control and good sense when the misbehaviour stops.
Helping a child vent anger
Children, like adults, shouldn’t be required to hold anger in all the time. You may want to talk with your child about anger, including the words used to express it, and show your understanding. Encourage your child to vent anger physically by running around outdoors, by punching a big batch of play dough, or by hitting a tree with a stick. Teach your child to count to five in a loud, angry voice, to play an angry song on a musical instrument, or to dance an angry, Or shout something loudly with your child, and let your voices drop gradually until there’s silence . Have your child draw a picture of these angry feelings. Help your child deal with anger deal with anger by creating a Rage Rock. Pick out a rock together, paint it, then have your child squeeze it when angry. Keep it in a convenient location.
Calming an Angry Child
- Hold your small child tightly while rocking and singing Express your love in terms of increasing size. For example, “My love for you is as big as a flower…as big as a teacup….as big as a bush…” Try to get your child involved in thinking up bigger things.
- Whisper in your child’s ear. If you can think of something really good to whisper, your child’s moods may change altogether
- Tell your child there’s a smile inside, and if it’s not led out, it will turn into a giggle. (It often will.) Mimic your child exaggeratedly and say, “No laughing!” (Don’t forget to talk about the problem when the giggling is over.)
- Scold a piece of furniture or a toy that “causes” the trouble. You child will probably end up laughing.
- Lend your child a hug and kiss when things are going well; call in the loan when anger strikes. This gives your child a chance to express warmth and calm down so you can talk about the problem.
- Help your child calm down after a crying spree by taking deep breaths together. Pretend your child’s toes are candles that have to be blown out using deep breaths.