Rituals and it’s effect on child mentality during development
As I born and brought up in India and belongs to Hindu religious family, So I am mostly aware about the rituals, festivals, perceptions, ways of celebrations, traditions etc of my own religion. While explaining about Rituals and it’s effect on child mental capacity, I am referring towards my own rituals as exemplary. Readers may applied with their own religions. It may vary country to country and religions as well. Child will able to understand and follow as per their parental faith as well as followings. This includes the morality and ethics of life. It helps in carving out a great personality. Listed article is all about the norms and values for perfect and proper up-bringing.
Everyone is aware of the vastness of (Hinduism) Sanatan Dharma, one of the oldest religions of the world. Hinduism is a large set of different religions and beliefs that have been in place since ancient times. Whatever rules have been made for the life of a person in this religion. It also have a scientific basis. Like life is divided into four phrases. It is considered mandatory for a person to follow 16 types of rites. The credit for making these rules of life creates a special bonding in relations. From the birth of man till death, sixteen sacraments have been made and followed accordingly.
Kinds of rituals with moral Values
While defining the sacrament (Sanskar – multiplication of virtues and division of personality) , it’s a big bond of qualities. Correcting, removing defects and errors, generating positive thoughts in the mind, purifying oneself, enrichment, culture, courtesy, custom, religious acts, etc. are all part of the ritual. It is the consciousness of any religion, which teaches the living behaviours, those who believe in that religion. Rites are the hallmark of our religious and social life. There is a provision of 16 rites for Hindus. It is believed that following them increases the life living qualities. However, the number of rites is also different in different scriptures. Mystics have done research to make us cultured and social and then compiled the rules after seeing the results. Sixteen rites of Hinduism have also been recognised by physicians and scientists associated with social science and psychology.
Initially from the beginning, first rite is conception. This is the first rite of human life to attain worthy, quality and ideal children. It has been called the conception ceremony. After entering the household life, this rite has been recognised as the first duty. Parents desiring the best progeny should perform this ritual for their purity of body and mind for conception. Under this, before the birth of the child, the man and woman should measure their health and mental state. According to the rules, date, constellation etc., pregnancy should be done. So that the baby can be healthy.
Next Rite Pumsavan (quickening the fetus) Under this, it is kept in mind that on getting pregnant, an efforts done to prepare the future mother’s diet, ethics, behaviour, thinking, emotion, all good as well as properly balanced. Like good food, positive atmosphere, family blessings, etc. are very important. If the environment of the family is not positive after the birth of the baby, then it makes a difference on the mental development of the new life to come. Therefore, it is compulsory to have spiritual worship recitations, discourses, deeds etc. It is said that a pregnant woman should meditate on sacred texts like Gita, Ramayana (epics of ancient India) daily. With this, the thought system of the baby also develops very well.
The Third sacrament is – demarcation. This ritual is an extension of Pusvan. It literally means “marginal” meaning “hair and elevation” means “elevating”. This rite is performed in the sixth or eighth month of pregnancy. This is a kind of purification process of the womb. During this time the brain and heart of the child is developing. If the mother lives in an environment where good qualities, temperament and deeds are done, then it definitely has a positive effect on the brain formation of the baby. Referring to the epic of hinduism, It is said that the devotees used to teach Prabhalda’s mother Kayadhu to Devarshi Narada Bhagavad Bhakti. Prahlada had worn it while listening in the womb itself. Similarly, Yasaputra Shukdev had acquired all the knowledge in his mother’s womb.
Fourth sacrament can be said as caste work. After birth, there is a law to perform this rite before a newborn baby’s placenta (ie, cutting-up the placenta). For this, a mixture of two drops of desi-ghee (homemade butter) and six drops of honey is prepared. Which is chopped with the articulation of poetic hymns of their religions. After this, the mother breastfeeds the child. This entire process takes about 30 minutes. Scientists also believe that within 30 minutes of the birth of the child, She should be fed breast milk. Whereas, this rule has been written centuries ago.
Further the fifth Rite is better termed as – Nomenclature. It is a psychological fact that human beings are called by the name. It has a small feeling of the same kind. That is, the name has an effect on its nature. This is why people change their names when problems arise in life. So that, the negative impact can be reduced. Keeping this fact in mind, Muni (holy man ) do a naming ceremony. In which it is decided that the child’s qualitative names should be kept. The advantage of having a name according to the constellations or zodiac signs is that it helps to make a horoscope. Usually this rite is performed on the tenth day of birth. Prevention of purification of birth is also done on the same day.
Now while writing about the sixth Sacrament, as exodus which termed as eject. Even after the baby’s name is kept, it is kept with the mother for a few days. It includes the process of showing the light of the sun and moon to the newborn. Science also accepts that if the cold sunlight in the morning and the cool shadow of the moon falls on the newborn in the evening, then he is safe from serious diseases like jaundice, typhoid. Whereas, the logic of its first sages is to formulate a hypothesis to make the baby bright and polite. There is a way to perform this ritual in the fourth month of birth. For three months, the baby’s body is not suited to the external environment like strong sun, strong wind etc. In the fourth month, he is brought to the external environment and then gradually he becomes his primal.
Next is the seventh sacrament is of feeding with food ( Annaprashan ), In this rite, the child is feed with food items. Initially infant gets growth only by mothers milk. In the sixth month from birth, his Annaprashan is performed. In which food is to be kept in a silver bowl or plate. Generally feed with kheer (combination of rice and milk combinedly cooked and added sugar. When hot milk pudding is poured into the silver bowl, silver nutrients are added to it. Which are necessary to make the body strong.
Eighth Sacrament is performed as removal of hair’s ( Mundan ). It is specified as a law to perform this ritual in the first, third or fifth year of a child. The concern is to remove the unholy hair produced at birth and make the child sharp. During nine months of pregnancy, hair gets contaminated. Since the skin of the head is very soft at first, the hair can’t be removed. As soon as the baby reaches the age of one year or more, skin becomes little stronger. Many defects are eliminated by this ceremony. This ritual is performed with full chant. In which the day, date and time have special significance.
The Ninth sacrament is about ear-piercing. It isn’t only mandatory for daughters but also for sons. In scientific language it is called acupuncture. According to which acupuncture calms a person’s mind and helps in keeping heart rate normal. Whereas according to religious fact, diseases are removed and hearing power also increases.
While adding the tenth Sacrament of scholar, alumnus or student life. In the ancient times, when there was a tradition of residential school (Gurukul), the child was made aware of the letters in the house before sending them for schooling. Even today, on the day of Basant Panchami (festival that marks the preparation for the arrival of spring), the first letter is written by the child. As a popular belief, goddess Saraswati, who is said to be the deity of learning, music and art was born on this day and people worship her to achieve wisdom. It begin in the auspicious time and after that the child starts further studies.
Eleventh Sacrament is refer to the sacred cord ceremony or thread ceremony (upanayan). An initiation ceremony undergone by hindu boys over the age of seven, marking the start of their formal education. It can be defined as the ceremony of submission of the responsibility of the boy towards the teachers, who are considered as a holy performance. In this, the boy is worn with a thread. The sacred thread made of yarn that the particular wears above the left shoulder and below the right arm.
The next Rite numbered twelfths is can be defined as starting of knowledge ( Vedarambha ). it includes, about given knowledge of ( Vedas ) basics scriptures of hinduism. However, in today’s scenario it is almost over but some families have kept this tradition alive. It is very important to develop the child intellectually as well as mentally. It also helps in elaborating about the practical and spiritual progress is recognised. If the child is not aware of the Vedas in the skill, then it is the responsibility of the family to inform and teach about religion, culture, ethics, values etc. In the ancient times, before Vedarambha, Acharya used to promise about disciples and observe Brahmacharya fast, while living a moderate life. Also, after giving examination, they still used to study. During, this phrase, each student masters their own branch of knowledge in accordance to their lineage.
Thirteenth Rite is inclusive of cutting hairs ( Keshant )
This ritual was performed in front of teacher ( Acharya ) after completing Vedhyayana in Gurukul. However, now that the gurukul is not there, the importance of this ritual is going away. This sanskar is an undertaking to bid farewell to the Gurukul and enter the householder’s labor. In this, the hair is made for the first time, and after bathing becomes pure.
Fourteenth Rite is all about Inclusion. This means that the end of studentship and returning to home ( Brahmachari ) after psychologically preparation for the struggles of life. It involves a ritual sacrificial bath ( kind of bath which marks the end of long observance of bachelor ) . When the bath is performed after removal of hair’s, it comes under the ritual which is performed by the family to mark a person graduated and entering toward the new world of profession ( Samvartan Sanskar ). This bath was held with special meditative repetition of divine name. With this, the child gets permission to go to the marriage ceremony.
Fifteenth Rite is about to getting Married. After following all the above stated rites, they gets the right to start a family life by getting married. After the study, when the youth has the ability and maturity to carry out the social tradition. Only then it is made part of the responsibility of the family. In the specified culture, observing the fasting as bachelor for about the period of approx 25 years long is said to be mandatory. There are different types of marriages mentioned in scriptures
The final Sixteenth Rite is about Cremation. It is customary to burn his dead body in funeral pyre after the death of someone. This process is called the funeral procession or funeral rites. According to Hinduism, only the son has the right to offer fire to the father and mother. However, now social change is begin and daughters are also performing the last rites. Under the last rites, it is mandatory to do different deeds for few days.
Quick note and popular phrases of Ramayana with inclusive of few rites as mention ahead in this article.
Before splending ahead, I heartily welcome, and greet – The Prime Minister of India (name of a country), Shri Narendra Modi ji, The revered Sarsanghchalak of the Union, Shri Mohan Bhagwat ji, The Chief Minister of Uttar Pradesh, India, Yogi Aaditya Nath ji, etc. Who has come to perform the Bhumi Pujan for the construction of Shri Ram Temple, a symbol of the faith of the countrymen in Shri Ram Janmabhoomi Ayodhya. I also congratulate all the noblemen, who have come to witness of this historic moment.
Shri Ram ji ( God ) isn’t of any particular community (dharma) or religion. Millions people fought and lost their lives for the Ram Ji’s temple for the last 500 years to till date, crores of crore non-political Hindus all over the world are also giving their contribution to build this temple. And are waiting with full heart for its creation, which many people from generations been dreaming from many years long.
The temple of Lord Rama will built-up in Ayodha ( name of Place in India ) This temple is being built of Hindu identity which was being trampled for hundreds of years, of Hindu self-respect. Which was constantly being hurt, the dignity and pride of liberal Hindus. Who were brutally crushed by the terrorists. This temple is a symbol of Hindu renaissance, a proclamation of Hindu revival. It also indicates the resurrection of Hindu self-confidence. The ancient setting is the confirmation of the rise of Hindu civilisation. This temple is a tribute to millions of Hindu-Sikh-Jain-Buddhist sacrifices. This temple is of the Supreme Father Goddess Shri Rama who existed in the heart of every Hindu and their belief.
Goddess Shri Ram ji an unborn, eternal, divine nature, Brahman, the whole world is their temple, they are seated everywhere, in the moon, stars, sun, earth, sky, space, animal, beings, flowers, leaves and particles in the world. They are all over Ayodhya and other temples. Lord Rama achieved success by controlling the situation even in odd circumstances, he always followed the Vedas and Maryada. They supported justice and truth by compromising their own happiness. As mentioning further about the qualities of Lord Rama that made his life successful and those qualities of Shri Rama that made him be called Maryada Purushottam.
Tolerant and patience are the main qualities of Lord Rama. Despite being the king of Ayodhya, Shri Ram spread his life like a monk. This shows his tolerance. Lord Rama always as kind hearted. He took pity on everyone under his patronage. He empowered everyone to lead. Giving the kingdom to Sugriva is a reflection of his compassionate nature. Lord Rama always spreaded equality among every caste as well as every class. Shri Rama fulfilled every relationship with heart. Even though, his friendly behaviour despited to be faced many problems.
Superior leadership ability. Lord Rama was a skilled steward. He was not taking anybody with him. It was only because of the superior leadership of Lord Rama, also displayed a sense of sacrifices, dedication as well as affection for all. For this reason, while going to exile of Lord Rama, Lakshman ji (lord Rama’s brother) also went with him to the forest. Not only this, Bharat served the public by keeping Ramji’s footstool on the throne keeping in mind the values of Lord Rama, despite getting the Rajapat in the absence of Shri Rama.
Every person wants to touch the dimensions of success in his life, but not every person is able to succeed in it. Some people climb the stairs of success. To achieve success or become a successful ruler, boss, team leader, one must possess many qualities. We can learn many qualities from the character of Lord Shri Ram, which will help to touch the dimensions of success. Lord Sri Rama was an avatar of Vishnu himself. He had immense powers, but he never misused it. Despite being the best, he used the bow arrow in accordance to the circumstances. His life was very limited, thus also know and interpreted as Purushottam Rama.
Prabhu Ram always walked on the right path and showed humility. In the same way, we should also do everything by being restrained. So that no one can termed us wrong. Wherever you are in any area, people judge you by your work. Prabhu Shri Ram always took everyone along. A successful boss is not the one who gives orders, a good or successful leader is the one who boosts everyone’s morale and gives everyone a chance to prove themselves at their best.
Further Goddess Ram ji spread the message for good livelihood as – obey everyone’s advice and even handed the responsibility of leadership to others in accordance with the time frame. Ram ji completed every task with a plan. Lord Shri Ram also killed Ravana with complete planning. Otherwise it was not easy to kill him. We also need to start planning and start every work. So that we can succeed. Unplanned work is embedded with obstacles/hurdles and also the work remains incomplete in between. Planning is essential to achieve your goal. A successful leader identifies the qualifications, talent, capability as well as specialisation of team members, Prabhu Shri Ram assigns the task to everyone according to their ability and they succeed in every task. He also assigned many tasks to increase efficiency of many people.
Ethical outcome – those who had the same nature, they were engrossed with joviality and delighted.