Reaction to the sex affiance queries
Usually, children ask unsuspecting question and parents don’t understands about – how to revert and give reaction to the sex related queries answer their question. Mostly parents scold him/her or make them quiet. The confusion and curiosity of the children increases even when there is not a satisfying revert.
Even today, people in our country do not talk openly about sex information to their children. As in according to the present tenure and society, building a relationship between parent and child is required on priority. Today is the time of technology, due to which it is not possible for smart gadgets to stay away from the hands of children for long.
Children rush to the internet world and calm their curiosities. In such a situation, children do not get the right information about sex and they start seeing sex differently. Therefore, it should be tried that children should be given sex education at the right time and correct information. For this you should also take care of right methods for children.
Need and importance of sexual anatomy
Generally, well educated people are still stunned by talking or discussing an important topic, which is mostly considered confidential, so giving coupling education to children is far away and our reluctance on our children’s future.
Have we ever thought about the effect it may have ? Isn’t not true that it is still easy for children to answer these questions today, but tomorrow it will be very difficult to solve their problems ? Often parents do not consider it necessary to give children any information about coupling.
By thinking that they too had not told anything about it by their parents. So did it affect their life? Then today the era has become so advanced that even before age children know everything. Then what is the need to explain something separately? But often this thinking of ours, proves to be harmful for children.
Whether or not to educate to our children, they get many such incomplete and provocative related information from pornographic magazines, TV, movies, internet, even toilet walls, which mislead them. Enough for child fickle mind starts to fret over various types of experiments about without seeing the immaturity of the body and in many cases they achieve it, and the result ahead ?
Many physical-mental illnesses, self-aggrandizement, remorse and studies, career losses are different. But our irony is that despite living in the jet age of 21st century, we are still not able to decide whether or not to give educate children and when and how ? Whereas now the time has come that beyond such education or not, we should think about how and at what age to educate to children. Mainly Sexologist are pointing the criteria and right way to give proper education to children.
Understand child phycology
Starting from initial stage, children’s are also with common mentality and line of thought like us and mainly human’s have feeling, and few survey as well as research say’s that few feelings are present in the child from birth and they are also eager to know all about the parts in humans body, which is absolutely normal.
Most of the parents do not pay attention to this and also do not give proper guidance to their children. Many times it also happens that we start arousing curiosity in our child’s delicate mind right from childhood. When the child is born, they does not know anything about the world, even about their own body.
In such a situation, whenever a child hands towards private parts like other organs or comes undressed in front of others, parents immediately reprimand them. At that time, the innocence does not realize their mistake, but in the opposite mind, curiosity starts to wake up, why is it forbidden to touch this part of my body.
So to avoid scolding of parents, child starts touching their private parts privately and the parents do not even aware about. Therefore, parents should not scold children with their normal actions, their behavior may also change over time. When talking to children on sensitive issues like sex, take special care of their age and understanding.
According to the age and understanding of the child, give him information related to sex. It is not necessary that you give complete information about sex to the child, but you can tell them all things by making them aware.
Human body parts explanation at different age slabs
Physical and mental changes occur when children grow up. It is often seen that children do not understand these changes and remain in a dilemma. Therefore, children should talk about these changes and parents should explain them. Awareness should be given about the meaning of these physical and mental changes.
Due to the lack of information related to sexology , children resort to porn videos. If you are aware of this then do not get angry with the child and explain it in a calm manner. Give him sex related information and tell him that the way to get information from internet is wrong. What to guide further in different ages ?
At around age of 3-4 years, explain them as the way all the brushes, towels etc. are completely private and individual also should not be used by anyone else, In the same way few part of your body is also completely private. Which you should not uncover in front of others.
Also, tell that if anyone touches or rub limbs, they should arise objections tell parents/guardians immediately. By doing this, we will be able to inform the children about privacy of their private parts as well as protect them from child sexual abuse. During the age slab changes – mother can ask about that child should not even show private parts to them, so now you have to take bath yourself.
In this way they will be able to know that their private parts are absolutely private, which no one has the right to see or touch. While teaching about body parts we need to explain regarding safe-unsafe touch. Small children do not understand much about safe-unsafe touch, but it depends on the way parents explain them. Still, explain to children about the good touch and bad touch.
Explain them in a simple way instead of answering their technical queries. Always keep in mind the age of children. While giving basic education to children, Parents need to provide accurate and complete information about fornicate to children above 14 years of age.
When kids ask questions related to copulation, parents scold them, instead of being angry, respond lovingly. Parents shouldn’t ignore their questions and may not try to scold them. Keep friendly behavior while answering such queries, do try not deal with settlement.
Give time and build supportive bonding
It is often seen that children run towards the Internet world or talk to their friends about sex due to lack of support from parents. From where he takes half-incomplete information related to sex. It is not right for them. Therefore parents should give time to their children.
Parents need to do communication also try for healthy discussion with friendly behavior and positive reactions. It is not that the curiosity of children will be calmed by knowing the names of the organs. Their questions also change according to the changes in the body with aging.
Therefore, the phase of their questions and your solutions should be like an ongoing process. Explain with examples for better understanding because as your child grows up, he wants to know why his organs are different from those of opposite sex.” Generally, children above five years of age have a desire to know this. So at this age, tell them the difference between boy and girl with ordinary comparisons.
Friendly relationship with teenagers is important
When children turn 12-13, apart from parents, many people start making space in their world. You tell them or not, they start to know about the changes in their body. We feel comfortable asking our friends about their problems. While talking about teenagers, “Have a friendly relationship with them.
Adolescent children should be given information about homosexuality, masturbation, periods etc. Don’t forget to tell them about safe sex and diseases like AIDS too. Often, after the age of ten, children become very sensitive about changes and looks in their body. Many children try to learn about these changes directly or indirectly from their parents.
On the other hand, there are also cases where children hesitate to talk about it. In such a situation, parents should take initiative on their behalf. It is very important to tell children about the hormonal changes in their body.” Especially mothers should tell their daughters about periods before the age of 12. Many mothers talk about periods in code word. They present it as shame or curse.
They have to change their perspective. Tell the girls that this is a natural function of the female body. With such a learning, the girl will never feel embarrassed or guilty about it. Not only this, I believe that boys should also know about this. In the early teens, boys also feel the excitement in their private parts.
Exciting dreams or excitement in genitals is not an unnatural thing. If they ask you about this, then solve their questions. A good way can also be to inform them about this before they ask. As per the current society and behavioral the role of sex education in schools becomes important. It is good that parents give sex education to their children at home, but in India, such parents are very few.”
In such a situation, making sex education mandatory in schools seems very important. It should be included in the eighth or ninth grade syllabus, as by this age (14–15 years), children have developed sufficient understanding.